Comments on: Social Networking Downside?

By: Contacts, Friends, and Meetups « The Broad Brush

Contacts, Friends, and Meetups « The Broad Brush — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 16:51:31 +0000

[...] what’s a guy to do? I’ve already talked about social networking contact issues here, here, and here. Still my conclusion is the cliche, less is more. How am I accomplishing [...]

By: tojosan

tojosan — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 22:40:40 +0000

Sorry I’m so late with the follow up guys.

Thanks codewhisperer for the feedback, and good for you on the cutting down the contacts. And yes my new friend, we all fade into noise at some point. Battle that by keeping direct communication lines open, and don’t just talk about the weather. Get involved.

Paisano – always good when you stop by. Appreciate the back up on the post. Definitely you are right about the learning part. It’s more than just knowing the tools, it’s about knowing how to live digitally. As for being interesting…well, you are or you’re not, and it has less to do with you than the listeners.

Stephen – thanks for stopping by. Yes, lots of superficial relationships are being built, but squeezed in here and there are real solid relationships too. It meant a lot to me to have folks contact me directly, and ask how my mother-in-law is doing. Some of those folks are stepping out of just the casual relationship and moving up that ladder.

I’ll have to post the communication levels ladder soon, and we can all evaluate where we are in our relationships.

By: Stephen

Stephen — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 07:12:19 +0000

Thanks to the Internet, we now have the power to carry on hundreds of ever-more-superficial relationships. I guess sometimes people decide that enough’s enough and they want to focus on a select group that really matters to them. I’ve heard it said that you can only have about five close friends at a time, and I think that that’s probably about right.

By: Paisano

Paisano — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 19:38:47 +0000

Good stuff, Tojo. I commented on Andy’s utter and echoed his and your sentiments.
I’m still a noob when it comes to twitter and all this following malarkey so what do I know?

I think we’re learning that our online world is similar to our offline world where some people like you and some don’t….or some find you interesting and some don’t.
Ultimately we just hope more people like us or think we’re interesting than those that don’t.

Pai

By: thecodewhisperer

thecodewhisperer — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 05:43:22 +0000

Great post.
I’ve been dealing with this and just recently deleted 400+ off my social network for reasons stated above.
I don’t take my own advice though and am a horrible soc friend…i bulletin too much…update too much…and then never actually talk directly to anyone.
All of it does become ‘noise’ after awhile though.

Ray